Captain Roy Edgar McCoy USN Ret, 88 years old, passed away on July 26, 2016. He was a highly decorated naval officer and successful banking executive who spent a lifetime focused on serving others and his country. His greatest passion and pride was his family. Roy was devoted to his beloved wife, Louise throughout their 56 years together and cherished their four children Loren, Nancy, Gretchen, Rob and their spouses and families.
Born in Glendale, Ca, on May 26, 1928, he spent his early years in Indiana and teen years in California. He showed leadership potential at an early age, receiving his Eagle Scout badge when he was 15 years old. He was always full of curiosity about life and had a passion for philosophy graduating from the University of Nebraska with a BA in philosophy.
Entering the Navy in 1952, his career included commanding officer of the USS Sommersworth, the USS Hubbard destroyer, and the USS Caronade, providing in-shore fire support in Vietnam. He was also assistant Chief of Staff for psychological warfare. During his 21 years in the Navy he was recognized for his outstanding service with two Legion of Merit medals, two bronze stars (one authorized for valor) and 23 battle stars during his several tours in Vietnam.
In 1954, after a whirlwind romance, Roy married Louise at Truro Church in Fairfax, Va. They moved to Coronado in 1960 and began a 50 year love affair with it, interrupted only by brief stints in Sacramento and Japan.
When Roy retired from the Navy in 1975, he launched his fast track career in banking. He started out as branch manager for Great American Savings Bank and soon rose to Regional manager of San Diego County and then to Senior Vice President. After 15 years with the bank Roy retired to spend time with his family, enjoy Coronado and serve the local community. He was President of the Coronado Historic Association and Vice President of the San Diego Gaslamp Foundation. He also volunteered as the director of marketing for the Central City Association and various other social causes.
Throughout his life he always treasured having fun with his family and friends. He had an amazing smile and wit and a wonderful gift of making people laugh. He always treated others with the utmost respect and went by the motto “how I treat others is who I am”.
“Sir,” as his grandchildren named him, was the very model of a strong man with a big heart. He consistently spread love and joy to so many people.
When Sir was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in 2002 we watched his life compress into a smaller circle. Yet, what amazed all of us, and what we learned from his illness, was how much was still left after so much had been taken away. Sir was still there with his ever-present smile, continuing to connect to people even though he stopped talking. He has inspired all of us with his generous, kind spirit, his peacefulness, and his ability to live in the moment and to find goodness in life each and every day.
On his last day, with his family around him, he passed away peacefully and smiled one last time before he left this world.
Special thanks go out to the staff at the Sun & Sea Manor in Imperial Beach for the wonderful care that Roy received at that facility. The warmth and love demonstrated by the owners and staff over seven years was truly a blessing.
Roy was predeceased by his beloved wife Louise McKee McCoy.
Captain McCoy is survived by his four children and large extended family: Loren McCoy (Maria) of Murrieta, Ca, Nancy Blair (Harry) of Coronado, Gretchen McCoy (Moe) of Coronado, Pastor Rob McCoy (Michelle) of Thousand Oaks, Ca; his grandchildren SN Ian McCoy, USN, Rachel McCoy and Roy McCoy, Lt. Cdr. Sam Blair, USN (Lauren), Sally O’Brien (Jeff), Susan Blair and Lt. Stuart Blair USMC, Molly Stephens (Micah), Kelly McCoy, Natasha McCoy, Daniel McCoy and Michael McCoy; and great-grandchildren William and Anderson Blair, Gavin and Emma O’Brien and Oliver Stephens. Roy is also survived by his sponsored family from Vietnam, Lan Ngyuen of San Diego and children, Cibelle, Clouchette, Nichole, and Alain Ngyen.
Each one was important in his life and a source of great pride.
A celebration of life memorial mass was held for friends and family of Captain Roy McCoy.